Frankie says RELAX

Every autumn me and my best friends Stacy, Karen and Jill go on a girls spa weekend. For the last 4 years we have gone to the Sundara Spa in Wisconsin Dells. It's a great spa, nestled on a beautiful wooded property not too far from Lake Delton. Like most girls weekend, spa weekend is intended mostly for three things; relaxing, laughing and wine drinking. We don't wear make-up the entire weekend and our clothes need to have only one requirement; they must be comfortable and stretchy. The added bonus of this year's trip was that it fell on my birthday weekend. It was great spending my perpetual 29th birthday with my favorite girls. This year, instead of going driving down to the Dells, Karen flew down from Minneapolis and we ventured north to the Kohler Waters Spa. Part of the 5-star American Club in Kohler, the Waters Spa was everything we hoped it would be. The services were wonderful and the products used were top-notch. Since I have been "funder-employed" for a few months we decided not to actually stay at the spendy American Club and opted for the Osthoff resort in nearby Elkhart Lake. Elkhart Lake is a lovely little lesser known Wisconsin gem. Karen fell in love with it and wants to bring her family back sometime next summer. In addition to going to the spa, my friends generously treated me to a great birthday celebration dinner at the Paddock Club and we took two long hikes around the lake. We were blessed with some of the best weather I have ever seen in late November; sunny and about 55 degrees. There are some beautiful lake homes as you can see from one of my photos, and quite a few for sale. Maybe we all need to pool our money together and buy a vacation property? One was only 1.2 million dollars. Drop in the bucket.

As always, it was awesome spending time with my best friends and enjoying our beautiful state.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder?

Hi everyone. I know I have been completely remiss in keeping my blog updated. It's been a crazy few weeks since I last posted. As you all know, I've been "fun-employed" or as I now call it, "funder-employed" for the last 8 months or so. I took on as many part time jobs in the last few months as I could in order to pay some bills and stay busy while I searched for a new full-time gig that I really wanted. In addition to my bartending gig, I also have been selling wedding photography for a company called Bella Pictures and got a seasonal retail gig at Crate & Barrel. Working all these various jobs has actually been fun. I like the variety. Juggling all the schedules has been a bit more challenging, thus, my lack of new blog postings. Well, the GREAT news is that I did receive a job offer this week from a company called IMS (Integrated Merchandising Systems) whose local offices are in Hales Corners. IMS does Point-of-Purchase displays and branded merchandise for large customers such as McDonalds, Wells Fargo, Research in Motion and Pepsi Co. I will managing the Pepsi account. I'm excited because the job should get me back on the road traveling a bit which I have really missed. I should be spending a fair amount of time at Pepsi headquarters in Rye, New York and also some time at other Pepsi brand headquarters such as Frito Lay in Texas. I think this job may have been my destiny. As everyone knows, Cheetos are one of my top 5 favorite foods. In fact, It think the FDA should make them the 6th official food group. Lo and behold, Cheetos are a Frito Lay brand. You know this means that I will find myself at least a few Chester Cheetos tchotchkes to decorate my new cube (and don't be surprised if Pepsi branded items end up in your gifts in the next few years. :-)) And, the cherry on the sundae is that my favorite soda, Diet Mountain Dew is a a Pepsi brand. If all goes well, I'll never had to pay for another Mountain Dew again!

Anyway. I just wanted to officially thank all my family and friends for being so supportive of me in these last months. I honestly don't know what I would have done without you all!

The little TV that could

If you know me, then you know I have lousy luck with electronics. That less than ideal luck has seeped over into large appliances and heating and cooling devices. For example, in the last 2 weeks I have had to make two appointments at the Genius Bar at the Apple store for problems with my iPod shuffle and iPhone. The shuffle issue was unable to be fixed. Another new tiny iPod shuffle now graces my waistband while I work out. The jury is still out on my two-year old iPhone, but my fingers are crossed that my new SIM card will get the job done. I have had 4 water heaters at my condo in 16+ years. One of them flat out burst open at 3:00 a.m. and flooded my kitchen, along with doing quite a bit of damage to my downstairs neighbor's drywall. Right now, both of my home telephones don't work. Over the years, this list has been endless....with one notable exception.

Very soon after I graduated from college in the spring of 1989, I made my first ever major electronics purchase; a 19" Philips color television. Over the years, larger TV's were purchased for my living room and my little Philips was moved to my bedroom. In the last few years, I figured that little TV would crap out on me, giving me the perfect excuse to move my 32" TV to my room, and invest in a new 42" hi-def flat screen. But, like the little engine that could, this TV refuses to go down without a fight. The picture is still sharp and the color still true. The only investment I have ever had to make is a new $15 universal remote control. With the exception of my family and a few childhood friends, this is the longest relationship I have ever had. This TV has kept me company and helped me get to sleep at night. Congratulations Philips on making a product this reliable. In a world of less than ideal product longevity and planned obsolescence, lucky little 19" has taken a lickin' and keeps on tickin'. 20 years and counting.

Drink and be Mary

Recently, not surprisingly, the most frequent question I have been asked is "How is the job hunt going?" I'm sure that question springs from a variety of places; curiosity, concern, fascination, thoughtfulness, or maybe even envy. I think people are even more interested because the job market has been so tight and the media is full of horror stories about current job prospects. Now, don't get me wrong, I've been worried too. In the old days, I could sling a dead cat and hit a job that paid well and was something I was interested in. This time, it is very different. Even though I have a strong resume, there are a lot of really qualified people out there looking for work. So, the old days of getting an offer for almost every job I ever interviewed for is getting replaced by..."Well, you have a strong resume.....but" It seems that there is just a tiny something; usually a very, very specific type of experience, missing. Needless to say, even though your brain tells you it's just business, your ego takes a little hit. During these tough times, there are a few things you can do 1.) Give up or 2.) Take a bar tending class and find a part-time job slinging cocktails in a local watering hole. I went with option #2. I've always wanted to be a bartender. One of my college era regrets aside from not attending the University of Wisconsin-Madison is not getting a bar tending gig. (It always seemed fun and an excellent way to meet boys). I think I have all the necessary qualifications 1.) An outgoing personality 2.) Relatively good hand-eye coordination 3.) A 25-year love affair with all things booze related. My journey toward barkeep status was thankfully short. I took a two week bar tending class at the Milwaukee Bartending Academy which is located, naturally, in West Allis (bar on every corner...check....school for bar tending....check!) In the class, you learn a lot of alcohol facts, history, and how to make a variety of libations, including all the new popular martinis. The bar tending school has a full working bar; sinks, soda guns, all the necessary glassware etc. Of course, you practice using colored water, but other than that, the place simulates a real bar. To pass the course, you have to make 24 drinks in less than 30 minutes. Now, that might seem like a cake walk, but some drinks have many ingredients (yeah, I'm talking to you Long Island Iced Tea) have to be layered in a certain way, or, have illogical proportions. I don't know if it's all my years of drinking experience, or my history of doing well on exams, but, I killed that test! Flying colors. After you pass the class, you are required by the state to take an on-line alcohol safety class called Learn to Serve. Basically, it teaches you how recognize when someone has had too much to drink. In theory, the class was just a formality for me. After 25 years of watching drunks, and many times being one, I think I know all the signs. But, Wisco has to earn revenue somehow. After getting my L2S certificate, I needed a way to get some practical experience. As luck would have it, Peg and Russ have a friend who owns a martini lounge in Germantown. I asked Krissy, the owner, if I could work for her gratis just to get my feet wet. Kind and generous, Kris agreed without hesitation. Well, my two nights of free service translated into a regular paid Saturday night gig. As the Beatles sang "I'll get by with a little help from my friends". When I told my brothers that I was going to tend bar, they laughed out loud and said something to the effect of "Mare, you know, there is a LOT of glass-based items at bars". I wish I could have been mad, but they have a valid point. I've always been a bit of a spiller, a dropper and a breaker. The Klavier Lounge might become my Waterloo. Kris might need to rethink her decision. However, I'm happy to report that so far, I've only broken one glass and the tip jar. Who knew tossing a dollar coin into a glass jar could cause so much damage. So, if you're ever bored on a Saturday night, journey out to G-town. I'll be quick with a joke, and a light of your smoke, and you know what, right now there's no other place I'd rather be.

Risotto virgin no more

I'll admit it. The idea of attempting to make risotto frightened me. I'm not sure why. For nine years now I've taken on the massive undertaking that is the Thanksgiving Day meal (to mostly very positive reviews over the years) I've tackled time consuming yeast breads and roll out cookies (those always derailed my Mom) and attempted countless other culinary experiments over the years (to mixed reviews: A big, belated SORRY to family and friends who survived the monk fish incident of '03) But, for some reason attempting this delicious, Arborio-rice based dish struck the fear of God in me. Perhaps it's because I've had some delicious risottos in restaurants, and knew I'd be disappointed if I couldn't achieve similar results. Perhaps it's because my friend Stacy is an amazingly good, effortless cook and after repeated attempts, claims that she has never gotten it right. For whatever reason I've stayed a risotto virgin until just this week. I'm not sure what inspired me to take my first stab at it. I did see the movie Julie and Julia recently, and I think many people left that movie, rushed over to Barnes and Noble and snapped up Julia Child's 'Mastering the Art of French Cooking' with the goal of attempting the Boeuf Bourguignon that is predominantly featured in the film. Or, it could have been that just hours after my Mom handed me a big bag of fresh tomatoes from her garden, I happened across a Gordon Ramsay (he of Hell's Kitchen fame) recipe for tomato and mushroom risotto in of all places, my People Magazine. Who knew huh? Apparently, People is good for more than wiling away an hour of your life you're never getting back or seeing what celebrity "wore it best". Anyway, the recipe sounded delicious and seemed pretty easy. And, to my surprise, lo and behold, it was. One thing about making risotto is you have to be very patient and not prone to repetitive use injuries like carpal tunnel syndrome. It requires a lot of stirring as you have to add the liquids (one of the liquids is wine...so I recommended sipping some as you cook...helps pass the time) in stages and stir constantly while the rice absorbs it. All told, it takes almost an hour from start to finish. I think the results were worth the time. In fact, I think I'm adding this exact risotto recipe to my Thanksgiving 2009 menu. Here is the recipe for all who are interested. Good luck and enjoy!

Tomato & Mushroom Risotto

• 1 large shallot, chopped finely
• 4 tbsp. olive oil
• 8 oz. Baby Bellas mushrooms, sliced
• 10 oz. Arborio rice
• 1/2 cup dry white wine
• 4 cups low sodium chicken broth
• 8 oz. plum tomatoes, skinned, seeded and finely chopped
• 1 tbsp. each of chopped fresh basil and chives
• 2 tbsp. mascarpone cheese
• 3 tbsp. freshly grated Parmesean cheese
• sea salt and fresh ground black pepper to taste

1.) In a large saucepan saute the shallots with the olive oil for about 3 to 4 minutes and then add the mushrooms. Continue to saute for another 5 minutes, stirring frequently until softened.

2.) Stir in the rice and cook another minute or two. Add the wine, stir and cook until absorbed. Pour in a quarter of the chicken broth, bring to a boil and cook until absorbed.

3.) Gradually stir in the rest of the broth over 15-20 minutes, adding more as each previous amount is absorbed. This helps to give you a creamy risotto.

4.) When the rice is al dente, fold in the tomatoes and herbs. Check the seasoning and stir in the cheeses. Serve in warmed bowls and top with shaved, aged parmesan.

500 Days of Enjoyable

I'm a big movie and television fan. Pair my love of movies with a summer of funemployment (now over....boo!) and you have a happy Mary and my following movie recommendation. In a upcoming blog post I'll rave about my new fav Fall TV show, but for now, let's talk film. If I like a movie a lot, I will usually see it once in a theater, then rent it again on Netflix. Of course, I will then watch it again repeatedly once it hits cable TV. Witness my recent afternoon viewings of Working Girl, Sliding Doors and Blue Crush. (Not all viewed in the same afternoon......I'm not a complete shut in...ah, yet) So, what made me see my favorite film of 2009 so far, '500 Days of Summer' three times in the theater? (you are most welcome Fox Searchlight Films). It could be the cool soundtrack, (fans of The Smiths, rejoice! You have two chances to hear Morrissey) the great young cast, (Joseph Gordon-Levitt has come a long way since that super-annoying 3rd Rock from the Sun) the out of chronological order story-telling structure, or just the general concept. It's a romance, but it's not a love story. In the film, Tom falls for Summer. Summer likes Tom, but from the get go, she makes it pretty clear that she doesn't want a boyfriend and is not looking for a serious relationship. Tom is so smitten with Summer that he basically ignores everything she tells him and all the not-so-subtle signs that she is "just not that into him". Boy, have I been there and more recently then I would like to admit. We've all done it or are still doing it. We make excuses for lame romances that aren't giving us what we want or need because we think we can will it to be something it isn't. Time and time again, we hang on too long. But, like Tom in the film, hopefully we leave each soul-crushing experience a little bit wiser and a little less apt to make the same mistakes the next time around. This movie will make you laugh, and maybe cry (I did) and you'll absolutely adore Tom's joyful post-nookie dance choreographed to a much beloved Hall & Oates song (great to see you back in pop culture Daryl and John! I missed ya). Mostly, it will make you think twice about wasting time in a relationship that just wasn't meant to be. Check it out.

70 and Counting

As most of my friends and family know, I have attended a LOT of weddings. I think that may even be what some would call an understatement. I was 13 years old when I attended my first wedding, that of my favorite childhood baby-sitter, Katie Hemmer. Since then, I have logged at least another 70 weddings. Could be more as there is no doubt that I've forgotton a few as well. Someone once asked me how I knew the number. At first, I wasn't keeping count. But one day I was like "Damn, I have been to a lot of weddings!!" and I started to write them down. I feel honored to be included in so many people's special day, but I hope to not have to repeat the phrase I have uttered countless times..."Always a guest, never the bride" until at least after the next wedding I attend is my own. From my lips to God's ears.

Last weekend, the entire Wisco Rech clan piled into two cars to attend the Indianapolis wedding of a dear family friend, Aaron Moody. I think I have the street cred to officially declare myself a wedding aficionado. I know what constitutes an amazing wedding, and this one was about as close to perfect as I have ever seen. From the venue, to the ceremony, to the invitations/table decor/paper details to the cake and the band, it was absolutely top notch. Even the weather cooperated, with a sun-filled sky, a few picturesque fluffy clouds and a light, lovely breeze. Only a few people I know deserve a day of such perfection, and Aaron is one of them. He is absolutely one of the nicest guys I've ever met. His new bride Alissa seems lovely as well. The entire Moody family is as great as he is and the Rechs were lucky to befriend them a number of years ago. I guess the fact that they are awesome isn't a coincidence. My Aunt Sheila is their grandmother. In addition to spending time with the Moodys, we got to hang out with our cousins Adam and Stacy all the way in from California who we haven't seen in about 9 years. Uncle Gene was there too. What could be better? A kick-ass time was had by all. Here are just a few of my favorite moments of the day and night.

1.) Andrea with her hands in the air, screaming at the amazing band "You guys are KILLING it!!!"

2.) Ross making one of his worst decisions ever.....ordering up a round of shots for the group...The bad decision part....straight up Bicardi Rum

3.) Us drinking the shots and asking each other "What the hell was that?"

4.) The solid 15 seconds it took for my cousin Adam to recognize me when I accosted him after the wedding to give him a big bear hug (9 years is a long time!)

5.) Christian Moody showing off his hybrid version of the electric slide/macarena/hustle and whatever other crazy dance moves he could throw in.

6.) Stacy working it OUT on the dance floor

7.) Seeing family that I haven't seen in years and hoping it won't be another 9 years until I see them again.

Congratulations Aaron and Alissa!